{"id":9541,"date":"2023-06-27T07:00:57","date_gmt":"2023-06-27T07:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/centreinsight.es\/quins-son-els-problemes-mes-comuns-a-les-parelles\/"},"modified":"2023-06-27T07:00:57","modified_gmt":"2023-06-27T07:00:57","slug":"quins-son-els-problemes-mes-comuns-a-les-parelles","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.centreinsight.es\/ca\/blog\/quins-son-els-problemes-mes-comuns-a-les-parelles\/","title":{"rendered":"Quins s\u00f3n els problemes m\u00e9s comuns a les parelles?"},"content":{"rendered":"

El problema m\u00e9s habitual en una relaci\u00f3 de parella sol estar relacionat amb la comunicaci\u00f3 i la polaritzaci\u00f3, qu\u00e8 vol dir aix\u00f2? Davant d’hist\u00f2ries diferents d’aprenentatge, cadasc\u00fa dels membres d’una relaci\u00f3 ha apr\u00e8s com funciona el m\u00f3n, qu\u00e8 cal esperar en determinades situacions, qu\u00e8 \u00e9s m\u00e9s correcte, etc. Aix\u00f2 implica que tenim diferents maneres d’entendre com hauria de funcionar una relaci\u00f3 o com hauria d’actuar la nostra parella en una situaci\u00f3 determinada. I aqu\u00ed \u00e9s on entra en joc la comunicaci\u00f3. Si som capa\u00e7os d’entendre que els nostres punts de vista s\u00f3n diferents, per\u00f2 no hi ha un punt de vista necess\u00e0riament m\u00e9s correcte que l’altre, si som capaces d’entendre que funcionem de maneres diferents perqu\u00e8 hem apr\u00e8s coses diferents, ens podrem acostar a l’altre per comunicar les nostres necessitats.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ejemplo: En aquesta situaci\u00f3 no m’has avisat que trigaries m\u00e9s a arribar i t’estava esperant, aix\u00f2 m’ha fet sentir que no t’importava i necessitaria que altres vegades m’avisis perqu\u00e8 s\u00e0piga que arribar\u00e0s m\u00e9s tard. Aqu\u00ed l’altre ens pot explicar que en relacions anteriors havia funcionat aix\u00ed i no havia tingut problemes, per\u00f2 en la mesura que entenen la nostra necessitat, pot fer alguna cosa per tenir-nos en compte. No obstant aix\u00f2, si en aquesta mateixa situaci\u00f3 em dirigeixo a la meva parella i li dono una bronca per no haver-me dit res, li crido que \u00e9s un impresentable, que no es pot comptar amb ell, etc., l’efecte que tindrem ser\u00e0 que l’altra persona es posar\u00e0 a la defensiva i la nostra comunicaci\u00f3 es veur\u00e0 minvada. <\/span><\/p>\n

Si entrem en una din\u00e0mica d’interpretar les difer\u00e8ncies com una amena\u00e7a, com una evid\u00e8ncia que tenim maneres de funcionar diferents i incompatibles i carregam contra l’altre per aix\u00f2, cada cop ens polaritzarem m\u00e9s, ens percebrem m\u00e9s diferents i m\u00e9s distanciats i aix\u00f2 tindr\u00e0 un efecte devastador a la nostra relaci\u00f3.<\/span><\/p>\n

Com es pot saber si la relaci\u00f3 ja no funciona?<\/span><\/h2>\n

En la mesura que els membres de la parella estiguin implicats a millorar la relaci\u00f3, ser\u00e0 possible identificar qu\u00e8 est\u00e0 passant i ajudar-los a guanyar consci\u00e8ncia sobre les din\u00e0miques que els estan fent malament. Per\u00f2 sempre \u00e9s imprescindible que els 2 membres estiguin implicats a fer-se responsables del seu paper a la situaci\u00f3 ia aplicar els canvis necessaris per modificar les din\u00e0miques disfuncionals. Si algun dels membres no est\u00e0 prou motivat o pensa que \u00e9s l’altre qui hauria de fer tota la feina, si hi ha una relaci\u00f3 amb una altra persona i no s’est\u00e0 disposat a tallar aquesta relaci\u00f3 o si hi ha maltractaments, serien circumst\u00e0ncies en qu\u00e8 no es recomana fer una ter\u00e0pia de parella o intentar reconduir una relaci\u00f3.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quin \u00e9s el motiu principal de conflicte a una parella?<\/span><\/h2>\n

El motiu principal de conflicte \u00e9s voler canviar laltre. Des del nostre punt de vista, all\u00f2 que pensem que \u00e9s el m\u00e9s correcte t\u00e9 un car\u00e0cter absolut. Ens distanciem que la nostra parella ha crescut en un ambient diferent i ha tingut uns aprenentatges diferents. de la nostra necessitat. A vegades, \u00e9s possible que traslladem una necessitat a la nostra parella i que no la comparteixi o no li assorteixi respondre a la nostra demanda. En aquests casos caldr\u00e0 valorar si la nostra necessitat \u00e9s imprescindible o si podem tolerar la situaci\u00f3 tal com est\u00e0. El que no funcionar\u00e0 \u00e9s repetir a la nostra parella que volem que actu\u00ef d’una determinada manera i seguir repetint aquesta exigencia una vegada i una altra, si ja ho hem manifestat i la nostra parella no actua com volem, el m\u00e9s possible \u00e9s que no ho faci mai, i reclamar i insistir nom\u00e9s ens portar\u00e0 a tenir m\u00e9s conflictes i distanciar-nos m\u00e9s.<\/span><\/p>\n

Per qu\u00e8 tinc tants problemes amb la meva parella?<\/span><\/h2>\n

\u00c9s molt possible que s’hagin consolidat din\u00e0miques disfuncionals a la vostra relaci\u00f3. Algunes d’aquestes din\u00e0miques poden ser: crits, faltes de respecte, ignorar l’altre, donar-lo per impossible, ridiculitzar-lo, pensar que la nostra manera de fer o veure les coses \u00e9s millor que la de l’altre, voler que canvi\u00ef, no empatitzar amb laltre, no comunicar adequadament, etc.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

El problema m\u00e9s habitual en una relaci\u00f3 de parella sol estar relacionat amb la comunicaci\u00f3 i la polaritzaci\u00f3, qu\u00e8 vol dir aix\u00f2? 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